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I have long said 'all behaviour is communication' ... and I'm not recanting that. I'm augmenting it. For most parenting advice –and most parents– behaviour is the problem, both the root and the branch. Parents (and experts) even talk about 'nipping it in the

It's an emergent property of successful prediction. It's what? When a child (person of any age, but I've spent my career talking about kids, so why not continue) has an internal sense of reality that often accurately predicts 'this will work' when

I started out helping parents I was babysitting for understand their kids, from a teen's perspective --I remember (still) being 6 years old, and 4, and even 18 months old. More than episodic memory, I remember how I felt, and what I thought –about what the adults were

Not apart from it Let's start with terms... What's an adaptive system? You. Me. A child. A family. A neighbourhood. A company. A city. A nation. An education system. A justice system. A government. A culture. A climate. A forest. Anything that perceives the world it

Imagine if what we see in behaviour isn't a conclusion, but a hypothesis... In the try-and-see world of childhood, what if everything a child does is literally an experiment: what happens when...? If you saw your child's behaviour through this lens, instead of the post-Industrial Western

So many parents search the internet and ask one another for The Answer: ~ my child refuses to brush their teeth ~ why won't my teenager put their dishes in the kitchen ~ what consequences apply for bad behaviour in school ...and the like. Parents are looking at the behaviour, and

but it sounds like it... Whenever I suggest any form of 'step away from behaviourism's ineffective tool set' I receive this response: "We're just supposed to let kids walk all over us, and have a completely disordered and chaotic life?!?!" Which is

Which 'Why am I here?' is this? Is this a whole existence 'why am I here?' or more of a site-based 'how did I end up on this page?' query? Let's go with the latter... Why I am here is the culmination