Parent coach and author, founder of Raising Parents Inc.
Where are you swimming in unnoticed conditions? A fish doesn't know it's wet. Not because it's stupid, but because it's entirely surrounded by water for its entire existence (let's not talk about flying fish at this moment...) I've
So... you have a 'why' in parenting... do you know what it is? Parenting is a beautiful, messy, and deeply meaningful journey. In the day-to-day chaos, it’s easy to lose sight of what truly matters. Today, I'm inviting you to take a moment to realign
Families are so important to us, and our connections and memories last a lifetime... And in many families, kids are frequently bickering, squabbling, or actually physically fighting and injuring one another. Are you getting pulled in to take sides, referee or treat the injuries? Every family has a unique way
What is the problem this behaviour was trying to solve? Years ago, I noticed something strange: The parents I babysat for, the business owners in my network, the moms who came to the mom's group I led weren't bad at solving problems. They were working incredibly
...they seem... For years, I've been noticing something. Some things improve when we apply more force, Some things get dramatically worse. Say: sleep. Or trust. Learning. Marriages. Sibling relations. To quote from a friend of my brother's: If it's jammed, force it; if it
I have long said 'all behaviour is communication' ... and I'm not recanting that. I'm augmenting it. For most parenting advice –and most parents– behaviour is the problem, both the root and the branch. Parents (and experts) even talk about 'nipping it in the
It's an emergent property of successful prediction. It's what? When a child (person of any age, but I've spent my career talking about kids, so why not continue) has an internal sense of reality that often accurately predicts 'this will work' when
I started out helping parents I was babysitting for understand their kids, from a teen's perspective --I remember (still) being 6 years old, and 4, and even 18 months old. More than episodic memory, I remember how I felt, and what I thought –about what the adults were
Not apart from it Let's start with terms... What's an adaptive system? You. Me. A child. A family. A neighbourhood. A company. A city. A nation. An education system. A justice system. A government. A culture. A climate. A forest. Anything that perceives the world it
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You haven't been subscribed to something new... just moved. While I work on a very large, new project (details to come) I'm moving my email list to this platform (for the tech geeks in the room, from MailerLite to Ghost, because Ghost does everything I actually
Imagine if what we see in behaviour isn't a conclusion, but a hypothesis... In the try-and-see world of childhood, what if everything a child does is literally an experiment: what happens when...? If you saw your child's behaviour through this lens, instead of the post-Industrial Western
So many parents search the internet and ask one another for The Answer: ~ my child refuses to brush their teeth ~ why won't my teenager put their dishes in the kitchen ~ what consequences apply for bad behaviour in school ...and the like. Parents are looking at the behaviour, and